“The real trouble is that the pure Word of Jesus has been overlaid with so much human ballast burdensome rules and regulation, false hopes and consolations that it has become extremely difficult to make a genuine decision for Christ.”—Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Do not say “I like you” to that special someone unless you’re in a place to address/do something about those irresistible, lay awake at night feelings of yours.
Do not focus so much on finding the right person, that you neglect the need for you to be the right person.
After realizing that you need to be the right person, perhaps you’d be in a place to go further than the mere words of “I like you”
If you’re looking at pursuing a relationship, -Be theirfriend Most of time when you walk into a room, you already begin “weeding out” people in the room, dateable, not dateable. Most of the criteria of which is physical attraction and/or initial emotional pleasantries like humor or kindness. Instead, it’s most beneficial to determine who would make a better friend, unfortunately that takes a lot more time than perceiving biceps and curvilinears. A friend relationship is the most meaningful.
-Define the relationship. Discuss goals. Marriage? Relationships? Dates? Snuggle Buddy? Agree on expectations of each other. Do we give gifts? Is spending time enough? What kind of words hurt us/encourage us? Are we out to serve each other or be our own persons? How do we interact with friends? All hard conflict comes from differing expectations, there are no exceptions. Agree on a way to conflict resolute. We’ll talk it out immediately, We’ll take time to cool off then we’ll ask someone for advice. Discuss and agree on a protocol for a baseline, or else when conflict comes up there’s just tons of uncertainty, lack of safeness in the relationship.
Discussing these things before you pursue a relationship, will save time, energy, wasted emotion, and sleep. Let’s try to keep the number of broken hearts to a minimum.
This will help you make sure those butterfly feelings, don’t flutterby as fast they came.